Recognize The Pattern. Regain Your Power.

The most important question you can ask is “why do I keep…”

Getting stuck in old patterns and mindsets.

Leaving people before they can leave you.

Refusing to interact with almost everyone just to protect yourself.

Getting depressed because you don't have close friends, but then also getting angry at yourself for pushing people away.

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Oversharing with unsafe people. 
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Not listening to your gut instinct about a person and getting hurt beyond belief.

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Shutting down.  
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Ruminating. 
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Isolating. 
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The Back Story

PATTERN-PRACTICE™ was developed after I spent the last 15 years searching for an effective way to avoid slipping into these automatic self-destructive behaviors. What started as a personal practice to help me overcome fear of abandonment turned into a framework to help me manage other self-sabotaging behaviors, which points to the multiple traditions and disciplines that weave together to form the method itself.

Handwritten notes titled 'Patternwork Being Positive' dated 8/23/22, describing a process of positive thinking with definitions for 'Pause', 'Assess', 'Test belief', 'Exchange belief', 'Respond', and 'Notice'.

Black and white close-up portrait of a man with short, curly hair and a beard, wearing a striped sweater, looking directly at the camera.

Mastering any skill demands patience and time. PATTERN-PRACTICE™ is no exception. The benefits will include enhanced emotional intelligence, better relationships, a stronger sense of self, and greater self-awareness, making the investment truly worthwhile.

Pausing is key to increasing our ability to choose how we respond. When we do not insert a pause between a stimulus and our response we may wind up just reacting, which limits our choices.

Pause

1 Awareness

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Awareness is the capacity to observe yourself — your emotions, your thoughts, your physical sensations — without immediately reacting to what you find. It is the difference between being inside an experience and being able to witness it.

Test Thoughts

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The practice of intercepting automatic thoughts before they become automatic behaviors. The mind generates thousands of thoughts each day, most of them unexamined.

The practice of examining the narratives you constructed from personal experience and the narratives you absorbed from family, culture, community, and generations before you.

Test Narratives

4 Experiment

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The practice of taking small, intentional acts of moving toward what you have been avoiding. Testing reality against what the pattern has told you reality will be.

Release

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The practice of letting go of emotions like anger. It is the recognition that what the pattern was protecting against is something you are now capable of handling. The protection is no longer needed. The pattern loses its function.

Note Booking

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This is the practice of recording observations about your own behavior, thoughts, and narratives over time — creating a personal record that reveals what memory alone cannot hold.

What makes PATTERN-PRACTICE™ different

Procrastination → Decisive Action

Procrastination isn't laziness. It's a belief that the outcome of acting is more threatening than the discomfort of staying still. Once that belief is examined and exchanged, action stops feeling dangerous.

Limiting Beliefs → Examined Beliefs

The opposite of a limiting belief isn't a positive one. It's an honest one. One you've tested, chosen, and can actually stand behind. That distinction is where real change begins.

The same belief driving you to sabotage your own success is often the one driving you to sabotage your closest relationships. Addressing it in one area changes both simultaneously.

Relationship Sabotage → Secure Vulnerability

Scarcity Mindset → Sufficiency Awareness

Sufficiency awareness isn't abundance thinking — that's just scarcity with better marketing. It's an honest assessment of what is actually available to you when the belief of not enough stops making your decisions.

THIS IS FOR YOU IF

This engagement is specifically designed for you if you struggle with:

Personal

You keep repeating the same patterns in your relationships despite knowing better

Professional

You avoid speaking up, going for the promotion, or pursuing opportunities that actually excite you.

Financial

You have ideas about building something of your own but struggle with follow through.

THIS IS NOT FOR YOU IF

This is not traditional coaching. This is internal work. It requires honesty, willingness, and the readiness to examine yourself with the same rigor you apply to the problems around you.

WHAT'S INCLUDED

— 90-minute one-on-one sessions via video call

— Pattern Assessment before session one

— A life audit across five key areas covering identity, relationships, work, money.

— One focused practice to apply immediately after the session

— A written session summary delivered within 24 hours

OUTCOME

By the end of this 90-minute session you will have identified the specific pattern limiting your personal relationships, stalling your professional growth, and keeping your finances stuck. You will understand where it came from, why it keeps showing up, and what to do differently in the next thirty days to begin closing the gap between where you are and where you want to be.

1:1 session

$300.00

90-minute session you will have identified the specific pattern limiting your personal relationships, stalling your professional growth, and keeping your finances stuck. In the next thirty days, this one-time session, will help you close the gap between where you are and where you want to be.